For as long as males and females have walked the Earth sex has and continues to be a dynamic element and some would argue necessary component to our compatibility (setting aside the obvious requirement for our existence). Today sex no longer has that word attached to it . . . TABOO!
Today sex between friends or in a non- committed relationship, and sometimes the occasional one night stand is more common, what's the phrase . . . yes - Casual Sex!
Then we have the ever complicated situation - The “Booty Call!” This can get extremely complicated for some people; intelligently that is why someone came up with a set of RULES! And people, if you are going to be engaging in the most casual relationship of them all, SOME of you really need to read this! Just because there was the sexual revolution does not mean that women don’t get all emotional (or in some cases men). I have seen it happen, where one or the other or sometimes both get all CRAZY PANTS over the other and it turns into a cluster-fuck of emotional drama! So put your big girl panties or boxers and don’t come home crying if you get all butt hurt because you couldn’t follow the rules! You’re in the big leagues now, you’ve upgraded to a “Booty Call!” so please follow the ~ The 25 Rules of the Modern Booty Caller ~
1) Separate sex from love DUH!!!! Thank god this is #1 - should be the golden rule of booty calls!
2) You don't need to have anything in common. This is not a relationship, this is a booty call!
3) BOTH parties MUST be single or in open relationships. (Just because it’s a booty call doesn’t mean it’s not cheating!)
4) Exes whom you are currently friends with make ideal booty calls partners. However, if one of you broke the others heart booty call bumping should be off limits for least 24 months. (Approach with caution! Exes and booty call partners is where the emotional cluster-fucked up drama can start!)
5) Unless otherwise agreed on, after midnight on a school/work night is too late to text. On weekends, all outreach should be done at least 5 minutes before closing time. (A good rule - No calls before 9:30 pm and No calls after 1:30 am and DON'T call collect) I think you can make your own judgment call here.
6) Overnight stays need discussion ahead of time. Especially if you don't want a morning guest, otherwise it could get really awkward really fast!
7) The best place for your booty calls phone number to be stored is in your phone, meaning DON'T MEMORIZE IT! If at some point you want to delete that number and person, from your sex life - you won't have to means to call BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE IT MEMORIZED!
8) Your safest bet on communication for the booty call is via text. Texting (generally) helps the instigator(s) feel and appear (?) less awkward, desperate, and vulnerable. Let's face it, texting is ALWAYS the less formal way to go!
9) By using the texting and/caller ID method of communication the other party has the option not to answer. If the person receiving is an unwilling participant, he/she can "opt out" without hurting the others feelings. Just a piece of advise if the other person chooses to "opt out" more often than not it is probably a good idea to let go because your "booty call" is most likely getting a "booty call" from somewhere else!
10) It is common knowledge that booty calls are made after hours, some would say it would do the world well to remember that you may call sober and in the light of day! (Sober, absolutely! In the light of day - maybe, I think that might defeat the purpose of "booty call", I am not sure I would have a booty call over for a lunch time quickie)
11) Ideally (referring to # 9) booty callers should alternate who texts whom so that mutual interest is regularly re-established. If you have been the instigator more than 3 times without a response from the other side I would say it safe to assume your booty call would almost rather watch Snooki and JWOWW or Survivor than have sex with you and if you would rather be watching Teen Wolf or Greys Anatomy, then I think it's safe to say it's fine to stop texting them. (You can still keep texting if you don't want to take that small chance that the other person may still want to hook up, but you’re walking a fine line of stalker after about the 7th or 20th text . . . Just saying)
12) It might not be a good idea to call on your booty call more than once a week, two weeks is a safe bet, going more than that and you are risking emotional attachment (for all you clingers I am talking to you!).
13) It's totally fine to be tipsy (more fun), but if you're falling down drunk and not even able to perform the basic tasks of the booty call, just don't do it! Don't make the call/text, but who are we kidding OF COURSE YOU WILL! Although you run the risk of embarrassing yourself, not to mention saying something you'll regret, or acting like an ass, or worse yet throwing up in the middle of the act. Yet you will still make that call, why? Liquor and sex it never fails, and somehow the booty call always gets drunk dialed!
14) Playing like an adult doesn't always mean that both parties will act responsibly, so let's throw it out there - CONDOMS People! And if the girl tells you she's on birth control, that doesn't stop Sexual Transmitted Diseases! THINK!!!! Especially if you're having sex with more than one person!
15) Don't leave your personal items behind! This will cause confusion and give mixed messages!
16) You shouldn't fake it, ideally. But ladies let's be honest, sometimes that's just not happening. And if you're good, men, you won't know the difference!
17) If your not having fun, then by definition it is not a proper booty call ~ Amen!
18) Think uncomplicated, flexible - Never call your fuck buddy to say "hi", or make solid plans. This is not a relationship, and if you start treating it like one, it will become one, or complicated like one.
19) If your booty call is in the same social circle (not a good idea to begin with), and you are out together in a group, then either go home together, or go home alone.
20) Just because the sex is casual doesn't mean that topic of your romp is topic for casual conversation. In layman terms, be an adult and be discreet! If you are going to discuss it just make sure you are keeping your sex life within your closest circle of friends and they know when to keep their mouths shut!
21) Assume that you are NOT the only booty call in your booty calls partner's rotation. If this is not cool with you, then you need to have to a conversation with your booty call and let him/her know your desire for casual but monogamous sex, then negotiate from there. But don't be surprised if you're given the boot. I mean when have you ever known casual and monogamous to go together? Then add booty call to the mix! If you want a relationship or a commitment, a booty call is not the place to start looking.
22) Don't assume that the longer the duration of the booty call means relationship progression- This can be tricky and misleading!
23) You should always be honest with your booty call about expectations. Other booty call partners (in the regard that you have them), sexual health history, etc. However AND THIS IS IMPORTANT ~ ALWAYS keep unsolicited details about other partners and sexual experiences to yourself! When sex is involved it is important to keep your partner's safe, but If your partner(s) start asking details that you feel is none of their business and is not vital to the relationship needs be clear and honest about your feelings in why you are not forthcoming with the information. Trust me divulging details about past relationships can get messy and put both of you in conversations and situations that are just DRAMA! It is better to LET IT GO and JUST DON'T GO THERE! If they continue to ask you and/or cause issues you may seriously want to consider your options!
24) The above rules may be amended at any time if both parties are in obvious agreement.
25) The final rule that should be aired on the side of caution as it can be extremely fun or end a lifelong friendship. No one can really tell you what to do here, I personally believe it is all about maturity.
Some may be more inclined to get in a sexual relationship with one of their guy friends before an ex, some may go with the ex. I personally have done the friends with benefits myself.
IF you think you can handle it, then I say go for it, but again this can be a dangerous situation! If one of you falls for the other and the other does not, it can ruin a friendship, it can also cause uncomfortableness between two friends! On the other hand it can be a comfortable situation for two people looking to get some action but not wanting a relationship! But MAKE SURE THAT YOU SET GROUND RULES! The worst thing here is loosing one of your best friends! If one of you is immature in ANY way I DO NOT RECOMMEND this or ANY BOOTY CALL, you are just asking for drama!
No matter how casual the setting, whoever you are bumping booty's with you need to remember they are human and not a fucking-machine. If you can't play well with others you might be better off with a sex toy! So go hit the sheets, stay protected and have some fun! Oh and keep it DRAMA FREE!!
KatesMarie
Crazy
Sunday, August 28, 2016
Thursday, October 22, 2015
JUST the FACTS!
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!
Please visit
to find ways you can help and possibly save your life
There are many times when WE JUST WANT THE FACTS!
As scary as they may be Breast Cancer is NO JOKE!
So take control of your own health NOW! Inspire others and spread the word about the importance of early detection to all of the women AND men in your life.
~ In the U.S., 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed
with breast cancer in their lifetime.
~ The most significant risk factors for breast cancer
are being female and aging.
~ Approximately 95 percent of all breast cancers in
the U.S. occur in women 40 and older.
~ Breast cancer deaths have been declining since
1990 thanks to early detection, better screening,
increased awareness, and new treatment options.
~ Each year it is estimated that over 220,000 women
in the United States will be diagnosed with breast
cancer and more than 40,000 will die.
~ Breast cancer is the second leading cause of death
among women.
~ In the U.S. today, there are more than 2.9 million
breast cancer survivors - the largest group of all
cancer survivors.
~ One woman will die of breast cancer every 13
minutes in the U.S.
~ Every 19 seconds, someone in the world is
diagnosed with breast cancer.
~ Although men are diagnosed at a much smaller
rate than women, their chances for being
diagnosed with breast cancer also increase with
age.
You CAN be the DIFFERENCE!!!
Much Love
Kates Marie
Sources: National Breast Cancer, Komen Kansas City, WW5
Friday, September 19, 2014
Zodiac Signs and After Sex Comments
Aries ~ OK Let’s do it again!!!! I am so ready . .
Taurus ~ I'M HUNGRY!! - Pass that Pizza over here will you babe? Thanks!
Gemini ~ Have you see the remote? I need to catch the news, come on, please - give me the remote …???
Cancer ~ When are we getting married? (Oh God was that too soon? The last one didn't call again, changed the number….)
Leo ~ Wasn't I Fantastic?!?! Of Course I Was.. J Why the hell am I asking you?
Virgo- Need to wash the sheets ... Oh God! PLEASE leave so I can to wash MY damn sheets!!!
Libra – I liked it, if YOU liked it. Did you like it? (What if they didn't like it…?)
Scorpio ~ Perhaps I should UNTIE you? Hmm, NEXT TIME we will use the Handcuffs or MAYBE The Whip?
Sagittarius ~ Don't call me, I'll call you…. (Yeah . . . when I get around to it)
Capricorn ~ Do you have a business card?!?! – We can do Business and hook up later.
Aquarius ~ Let’s try it with our cloths off ! It’s hot in here right, hit the lights too.
Pisces ~ What was your name again?? (God I have to stop doing that, this is the last time I swear!)
I don't know about you but mine is RIGHT ON!
Happy Friday
<3 K@tes
Thursday, September 18, 2014
~ Some WTF U.S. Sex Laws ~
After coming across this CRAZY article I have to share, especially since one of the laws applies where I reside . . .
- Oral Sex is illegal in 18 states, including Arizona, Kansas and Utah
- It is illegal in 18 states for a man to have an ERECTION that shows through his pants
- In Virginia, it is illegal to have sex with the lights on
- It is illegal for husbands in Willowdale, Oregon, to talk dirty during intercourse (Umm, foreplay?)
- Sexual intercourse between unmarried couples is illegal in Georgia
- Engaging in any sexual position OTHER than missionary is illegal in Washington, DC
- In Connorsville, Wisconsin, it is illegal for a man to shoot off a gun when his female partner is having an orgasm (I find this VERY peculiar!)
- In Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, it is illegal to have sex with a truck driver inside a toll booth
- Having sexual relations with a porcupine is illegal in Florida . . . (I mean WHAT?!?!?)
- It is illegal in Utah to marry your first cousin before the age of 65
- In Dyersburg, Tennessee, it is illegal for a lady to call a gentleman for a date
- In Washington State, it is illegal to have sex with a virgin under any circumstances, including the wedding night! However, sex with animals is perfectly legal for men in Washington State,
as long as the animal weighs less than 40 pounds.
- In Clinton, Oklahoma, it is illegal to masturbate while watching two people have sex in a car.
Of course I had to do some research, and these are on the books, let's hope for EVERYONE'S sake they are NOT being enforced, well maybe the porcupine, marrying your first cousin, and having sex with an animal that's over 40 pounds . . .
Source http://www.collegetimes.tv/10-weirdest-american-sex-laws/
Happy Thursday & Much Love
K@tes
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